Hi Olivia, Since my live-in boyfriend and I have been quarantined together it
Since my live-in boyfriend and I have been quarantined together it has been crazy. While I am sleeping he wakes up and makes a ton of noise as if he were in the house alone. We have argued about this constantly and he just doesn’t get it. I am on the verge of doing something that might end with a visit to the local jail. Please help me, I am about to lose my mind!
This extended “down time” has not brought out the best in everyone – that’s for sure. But the last thing we want is to see you on a local Channel 7 news clip for doing your boyfriend in with a frying pan. By now I am sure you have thought of several creative ways.
But on a serious note, since you have already (calmly and kindly?) talked to him about your needs, maybe its time to show him.
Having opposite schedules can be challenging, but also make you appreciate the limited time you do have together. So its important to make the best of it. Here are a few questions/thoughts I have…
If by chance you feel its a complete disregard for your feelings, that’s a different story and there are online counseling possibilities, or of course back to the frying pan method.
All joking aside, rest is vital to everyone to function properly. A good nights sleep and REM are really important for daily functioning, from thought processes, to mood stability, to our energy levels. If you go too long with continually interrupted sleep, it can be really hard to get back on track.
We all have a moment of brilliance, so I am sure the two of you will think of something. There are a lot of possibilities, and there is a solution to everything. Just don’t let your solution end up on our local news!
May the force be with you!
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